J.D. Vance decided to stick his nose into Christian theology
the other day, summarizing his understanding of the ordo amoris (‘order of love’) thus:
‘There’s this old school – and I think it’s a very Christian
concept by the way – that you love your family and then you love your neighbour
and then you love your community and then you love your fellow citizens and
your own country, and then after that you can focus and prioritize the rest of
the world.’ (interview on Fox News, 29 January)
I don’t have a problem with the idea that there is an order
to love (ultimately, this comes from Augustine and Aquinas, though their
treatment of love in this way owes more to Plato and Aristotle than it does to
Scripture). But Vance and those Christians who have spoken up in his support
have gone wrong in two important ways: they have made the ordo prescriptive,
and they assume that love is finite and essentially static.
Misunderstood in this way, the order of love suggests that
love of family takes priority over everything else (the old lie, ‘charity
begins at home’). Next in importance comes love of one’s immediate neighbours,
then love of the wider community, then love of one’s nation. Only then, might
one consider loving people beyond the boundaries of our own ethne. Add
to this the assumption that love is essentially finite and it suggests that
those beyond our borders are only worthy of the dregs of love that may or may
not be left over after we finished loving everyone closer at hand (and most like
ourselves).
Against this, I would argue first that the order of love
should be understood as descriptive. Yes, love begins with the family. That is
where we first experience love and where we learn to love. But as we grow, our
horizons expand – we go to school, join clubs, attend church, leave home, perhaps go to university, perhaps emigrate – and our
experience of love expands with our expanding horizons.
But, more importantly for the Christian, love is not merely
a finite human faculty. It is also a gift of God. And as we exercise that gift,
God increases our capacity for love. Since God is utterly unbounded, there are
literally no limits to this love. We see this quite clearly in Scripture where
Jesus commands us to love our enemies. And in the Orthodox tradition, we find
examples of love extending even beyond the limits of this world (e.g. St Isaac
the Syrian speaking of the compassionate heart praying even for demons).